Life Lessons from the Trenches – Self Love

Life Lessons from the Trenches

Self Love – The New Norm 

When I started day trading years ago, before I discovered that I am fully responsible for all I do – the market hit me harder and harder each day.

However, if you stick it out, know this is what you want to do (I never had a plan B), you actually wake up and realize – WAIT the market isn’t going after me. It had nothing to do with me taking the wrong trade, getting out too soon, moving my stop, etc… It’s all me, my fears, my stories, my self doubts – MY LACK OF SELF LOVE.

YES!!! – Lack of self love is what makes you get pissed at yourself, what makes you beat yourself up for each wrong move you make. It’s amazing how harsh we can be to ourselves. I was constantly running the same stories in my head – “how could I fuck up again, I know what I’m doing.” “What is my fucking problem, how can I be sooo stupid at this.” “Again, what are you thinking, Marina, how can you constantly be doing the same mistake over and over again, losing so much money, I am definitely insane.” and so on and so forth – this was my automatic pilot.

We all know this. We all do it. The only difference with trading, because it’s so intense and you have to be so disciplined and controlled, that it happens more often.

Finally, after a couple of years, when I had my biggest breakdown (always leads to a breakthrough) did I realize, it has NOTHING TO DO WITH MY TRADING. Nothing! It’s all about me, it’s all about how I handle myself.

The market never lies, it isn’t after us, actually TODAY I believe it is there to work with us.

However, it’s when I started to practice self-love – and trust me this is a practice and at first it feels so wrong and so weird. But after a while it becomes the norm.

Today, when I make a wrong decision, take a wrong trade, do something I shouldn’t in my every day life outside of trading I NEVER bash myself, I am compassionate and understanding and kind to myself. The same I would be to my kids, my husband, family members and friends. You would never say the shit you say to yourself to them if they did the exact same thing, why do we do it to ourselves?

If anything, we should love ourselves more than anyone else, because if we don’t, why should anyone else.

Maybe I would have come around to discovering self-love, but since Day Trading brought me to this space – I am so grateful to be here and because of that not only did my trading improve by a million, but every part of my life did too.

Let’s make self-love our NEW NORM!

Happy Trading,

About Marina Kuperman Villatoro

Marina Kuperman Villatoro CEO of The Trader Chick and has been day trading for years.

Day trading isn’t only a job.

It’s a lifestyle.

It’s a way of life and a transformational journey.

All you need is a trading plan, the right mindset, your laptop and the desire to work 2-3 hours a day so you can have the time to spend with your family, travel, have fun with your hobbies or simply indulge in the finer things in life (quilt free).

My main goal is to show how life transforming day trading is, even spiritual and to remove the stigma and fear that is wrapped around it.

I recommend by starting your journey with my FREE mini course – Simplifying Day Trading where I take you from Ground Zero to having confidence in understanding the markets.

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